Once again, I had the blessing of having children at my training in Budapest. They played and behaved well most of the time, but there were times when they became a little bit loud. I personally didn’t mind, because I was so grateful for their presence, but some adults were disturbed. I suggested that they clean with that subject. After all, it’s just memories!
What I found amazing, besides all the love and beautiful drawings I received from the children, is that, during our work with the inner child, we didn’t hear them at all. They were completely quiet, as if they knew we were doing something important.
The stories I have to share with you about the impact of my children’s book are beyond what I ever imagined.
Nancy, who is in the education and communication fields in Mexico, had the opportunity to present my book at a school in Finland. She shared the messages with the kids through a Finish interpreter. She was telling me, that she couldn’t understand why the kids kept asking their teacher to play my book’s CD if they couldn’t understand the English or Spanish I spoke. On the last day, she was shocked when she asked the kids to draw something they remembered from the book and, even though they didn’t have the book to look at it, they ended up drawing very similar pictures to the ones in the book!
While in Budapest, I met with an artist who works with kids. She shared with me the beautiful changes she sees in kids when they are allowed to be themselves and encouraged to communicate freely. She also brought me pictures with messages the kids expressed about my book.
You can watch that interview and admire their pictures and messages.
Children are truly amazing and have much to teach us about being our true selves in the here and now.
Do you remember being asked when you were a child: “What are you going to be when you grow up?” Didn’t you feel confused by that question? What did it mean? Did it imply that we were not good enough as we were? Was it saying that we had to become something or somebody else? What did you do when you were asked that question? Did you make something up, just to satisfy the adult?
It is normal for a child, who lives in the here and now, to be perplexed by this type of question. You see, it clearly shows what we are trained to do as we grow up. Although we are born to be ourselves, we are told that we must please others, so we become what others expect us to be. We look for approval outside ourselves. At school, we do not want to be different, so we try to fit in the box, even if this requires us to deny our true selves. We later go to the University to study what our parents or friends approve of, and we finish a career because we believe this will bring us a secure job and money.
Has anybody ever told you that you need a job in order to survive, a stable employment that will allow you to pay the bills? Have they told you that, if you study and work hard, you will get a good job that could give you a lot of money? Why are we so worried about having so much money? So we don’t have to worry about money? Or because we think money will make us happy?
What have you sacrificed in order to have what you have? Do you believe you are happier now than you would have been if you had done what you loved? Do you live a worry free life? Are you secure? Are you free and at peace with yourself, or are you still looking for your purpose?
Have you also asked small kids, “What are you going to be when you grow up?” Or do you remind them that they are already somebody and are here to be happy? Do you tell children that they can be themselves? That they are ok just the way they are?
Before we, adults, convince them to do otherwise, children naturally know how to be themselves and enjoy the here and now. If you pay attention to them, you will appreciate the gifts they bring. Children have much to teach us.
Fortunately, it is never too late to come back to yourself, to play and do what you love. Life is what you make of it. You decide.