Each of us reacts to life with various attitudes, and often before anything happens.
The reason for our automatic responses is because our reactions already exist in us. For this reason, it’s important to decide what attitude we will have towards the people and things in our lives. When we make value judgments on what happens to us, it may be based on memories from the past, which leads us to catalogue these memories as good, bad, right or wrong. We bring our prejudices to these memories. At the same time, we complain, doubt, criticize, and insist on being right. In this state, it is inevitable that we will act from fear, low self-esteem, arrogance, selfishness, greed, mistrust, and lack of commitment.
But, should we choose, we can also decide that our attitudes will be based on inspiration and humility. We can choose to be positive, to cooperate, and to let go of attachments. We can choose to follow our passions, trusting and valuing in our talents, and those of others, always committing ourselves to serve.
Live as if this was your last day
We should always be thinking about death. It may seem macabre, but did you know that in Bhutan, which is called the happiest country on earth, people have been taught since birth to think of death at least five times a day? In fact, the idea of living as if this were the last day of our lives, frees our minds from many useless worries. Try it!
It is also very important to bring forgiveness into our lives. When we decide to forgive, we return to the present and release the memories of judgement that we have towards others. When we choose to forgive, we realize that what might have upset us in the first place, were simply our memories dictated through a certain type of behavior, which came into resonance with our own ideas about how things should be (for example, with our own memories). That’s why we are liberated by forgiving others. When we let go, we always live in the present.
Forgiveness is like oil in a machine; it makes the wheels move. Forgiveness is also like the law of gravity; its power is invisible, but the effects are extraordinary.
With forgiveness, we declare that memories have no power over us, also affirming that we no longer give importance to what happened in the past. Forgiveness is the ultimate act of releasing.
So, change your attitude and forgive! In other words, let go of the past and set yourself free!